Bite your tongue
Meaning
This idiom means to refrain from speaking or to hold back from saying something, especially to avoid offense, argument, or revealing a secret. It suggests self-restraint in conversation, often used as a command or advice to stay silent in delicate situations.
Origin
The phrase likely originates from the physical act of biting one’s tongue to prevent speech, a gesture associated with restraint since medieval times. An early use appears in Shakespeare’s *Henry VI, Part 2* (1591): ‘Bite thy tongue.’ By the 17th century, it was a common proverb, as seen in John Ray’s 1678 *English Proverbs*. Its use grew in the 19th century, particularly in British literature, to describe social tact or secrecy, reflecting norms of polite restraint.
Variants (2)
Bite your tongue
Hold your tongue
Usage Examples (4)
Bite your tongue—she doesn’t need to hear your opinion right now.
He bit his tongue to avoid arguing with his boss during the meeting.
I had to bite my tongue when she started bragging about her promotion.
Bite your tongue and don’t spill the surprise party plans!